Monthly Archives: September 2011

A Poem and Song for Midlife Transition into the Second Half of Life

Midlife transition into the second half of life is a challenge for most people.  They are often left in the dark without any sense of having a song in their heart or a vision for the future. In order to facilitate this midlife transition I wish to share a song and a poem that invites you into a deeper awareness of the opportunity available within this period of transition.  This poem will also share with you the consequences of being unwilling to follow the call into midlife transition and beyond.      This experience called the midlife crisis is what this writer and storyteller calls the crisis to meaning.  It is the invitation and opportunity to find a call to find meaning and purpose in the second half of life.  Here is a poem that I would like to offer to those who are experiencing what is called the midlife crisis.

Continue reading

Sometimes a man stands up during supper
and walks outdoors, and keeps on walking,
because of a church that stands somewhere in the East.
And his children say blessings on him
as if he were dead.
And another man, who remains inside his own house,
dies there, inside the dishes and in the glasses,
so that his children have to go far out
into the world
toward that same church, which he forgot.

 

by Rainier Maria Rilke (translation by Robert Bly,)

 

The search to find meaning and purpose in life can happen at anytime beginning with adulthood.  However, life appears to create a hightened tension during midlife. Dr. Steven Farmer writing in Men, Spirituality and Power Animals tells of his experience with men.

 

Over the many years of working with men, I’ve found that this awakening can sometimes come as a result of the “two by four” approach. This happens when a man is going along, thinking everything’s okay with his work and his relationship, (even though there’s this nagging voice inside saying otherwise,) and God hits him with a metaphorical two by four. His wife divorces him, he gets laid off from his job or his addictions catch up to him– some momentous disruption of his life takes place. He can ignore this or take it as a signal to change, but by the time he’s in his late 30’s or 40’s, it becomes more difficult to deny it.

 

OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

mystical poetry
NEW DIMENSIONS – Over the years, a wealth of practical knowledge and perennial wisdom has accumulated in the audio archives of New Dimensions, a virtual treasure trove of timeless wisdom.
THE ENTHEOS ACADEMY – Online teaching that integrates everything you might have wanted to study: from old school philosophy and spirituality to modern day positive psychology, nutrition, creativity, conscious business and general self-development–all the
SEVEN STAGES OF SPIRITUAL EVOLUTION – n his spiritual evolution, man passes through different stages, each of them having some specific characteristics. Recognizing these characteristics can open the path toward superior levels which leads us to perfecti

The Stages of Personal Development from Midlife and Beyond

 

Homer and his Guide by William Bouguereau In order to live your full wild and precious life, from midlife and beyond into the 2nd half of life, you to be aware of the stages of personal development.  You need to develop the persona or what is known as the ego.  To live a life of meaning and purpose is to engage consciously with personal development to the point where the ego expands into what is beyond the ego.  This expansion has been called by the mystic Joseph Benner “The Impersonal Life.” This impersonal life has nothing to do with the experience of emotional coldness.  The fully lived life is the union with that which is both personal and impersonal.    The paradox of the fully lived life is the extent to which you give your life utterly to that which is beyond your idea of the separate sense of self you call the personality.

 

There are many maps to guide you in through the stages of personal development and beyond that have been given throughout the history of human development.  In this blog and its related website this Irish writer and storyteller will be concentrating on those stages of personal development life that hold such potential during midlife and the 2nd half of life. These are the stages of life from anywhere beyond the ages of your late thirties and early forties until the time when you leave the vehicle  of the body that is within this time and space dimension.

 

Continue reading

 

There are many ways of viewing the work of personal development and beyond and I am going to begin with a very simple structure that has been recognised within various cultures throughout the world.  This structure is more easily recognised in the lives of women but is no less important in the lives of men.  This is a three tier structure that is an easy to follow stages of personal development map.

 

Woman                                  Man

Maiden                                 Master

Mother                                 Father

Crone                                   Warrior

 

The names given to the stages of personal development and beyond for men are names that this writer and storyteller has chosen.  I have chosen them more as a reflection of the names given to the stages of personal development and beyond as reflected in the life stages of women.  Throughout this blog and its related website the third stage of the human development cycle will be given more poetic names.  The crone cycle in women will be referred to as The Dangerous Old Woman (DOW).  This reference is taken from the audio recording by the storyteller and Jungian analyst Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes.  This audio recording is available from the Sounds True catalogue of inspirational teachings.  The warrior life stage in men I will refer to as the Wild Old Wicked Man.  (WOWM).  This is the title taken from a poem of the same name by the Irish poet W.B.Yeats.  The word wicked in this context has nothing to do with being evil.  The wickedness referred to here is the courage to become all that you are here to be.

 

There are many personal development blogs on the web.  These focus, as the name suggests, on the development of the personal.  These cover various topics that are important to what I will refer to as the first stage of life.  This is the stage of personal development where the personality is being carved out of experience following adolecence.  This is the age from around eighteen to twenty one years through to the late thirties and mid forties.  For most people this is a period of career development and a full on working life.  It is the building of a family and the acquisition of an identity that you learn to establish.  During that time you acquire many skills that are needed to develop you in all kinds of ways.

 

The kinds of skills that are needed in the first half of life might include all or any of the following as being recognizable personal development skills:-

 

Time Management

Goal Setting

Positive Thinking

Financial Management

Organisational Skills

Relationship Skills.

 

Each job will have its own set of skills that one can develop and which in learning such skills will develop the personality.  This development is encouraged by the media, the educational system, business and the culture.  There is more than enough information available on these early stages of personal development  on various personal development blogs and websites to give you material to develop the persona for several lifetimes.  This is information that is to be valued and used.

 

This will assist you to in moving through such early stages of personal development.  These skills are necessary to the first stage of life.  For the woman that is the stage that transits late maidenhood toward the later stage of motherhood.  Note here that you do not have to be a mother in order for this information to be of value.  The first stage of life for the man transits the period of the late young master to late in the cycle of the father.  Again you are not required to be a father in order that the material in this blog be of benefit to you.

 

I have concentrated the invitation from this blog and its related website on the stages of personal development called midlife and the transition from the midlife stage into that stage of life called the 2nd half of life.  I have chosen to do this because it is a transition that our culture does not handle very well and this leads to much unnecessary suffering and can include the ending of long term relationships during these stages of life.  It is my purpose and my passion to illiviate suffering in any way that I am graced to do so.  This is essentially through writing and storytelling.

 

These stages of personal development are well mapped periods of transition within indigenious cultures.  These periods of transition had recognised rituals and practices that ensured that the individual moved through these life stages into the fullness of the wild and precious life they were gifted to share with their community. The important thing to recognise for many of us living today is that we are all living longer.  Future generations will, through the benefit of modern medical science, live to be over 100 years old.  This means that the second half of life can become a wondrous opportunity to live a long and precious life.  This will be a life that gives you the opportunity to live with the power and the expansiveness of the Dangerous Old Woman or the Wild Old Wicked Man dynamic.

 

However, while this powerful and expansive dynamic is available to each and everyone of us while living in a body of a certain age there is the issue of what is called the period of transition.  This stage of personal development is often experienced as the midlife crisis.  Beyond the midlife crisis there is the transition period called the menopause.  This transition happens in the lives of both men and women.  These cycles of life are driven from beyond the personality.  The midlife crisis is a call from the soul as is the transition for the man or woman who is moving through the menopause into a different life cycle.

 

In each of these phases, or cycles, there are changes happening for the individual on many levels.  These include:

 

Physical

Psychological

Emotional

Spiritual

Cutural

 

All these levels need to be taken into account in order to move from one cycle to another.  In any given cycle there is going to be resistance.  Resistance is a form of birthing.  It is likely to be painful.  This pain is to be acknowledged and not denied.  The real problem is not the birthing of the new but the still brith of the new.  This is because we are afraid of leaving what is known.  To avoid this transition from one stage of personal development to another.  We refuse to journey from the first half of life through midlife into the opportunity of a deeper stage of development.  It is to avoid the opportunity of development of the persona into the radiance of being.

 

The focus of this blog and related website is to provide you with an awareness of the cycles and stages of personal development  and the physical, psychological and other levels of change inherant within such cycles.

 

The other intention is to show you what kind of life is available to you should you choose to have the courage to move through such stages of personal development  with conscious intent.

 

Then there are the practices that assist you in moving through these cycle.  These practices are a different kind of technology.  These practices that I will share with you are what I call sacred technologies.  They work to reveal what is sacred within you and what will sanctify you and allow you to enjoy a real experience of sanctuary.  This is a sanctuary from the rollar coaster ride that is often experienced within these periods of transition that most people resist.

 

Whenever it is appropriate to do so I will share with you my personal experience of these periods of transition.  It is my experience that it helps tremedously to know that what you are experiencing is not something that makes you a terrible person.  This can cause you to isolate yourself.  By sharing my own experiences I hope to show that it is a natural stage of personal development and beyond.  It just happens to be one that is not spoken of because of fear and shame.  It is the loss of that which is known and thus is associated with loss of control.  The good news is this.  That which is beyond the persona is vast.  It is infinite potential.  It is the opportunity for the culmination and the harvesting of what is truly valuable within you.  It has the potential to take you into dimensions of human experience that you cannot imagine but that you can be the knowing and the living.

 

One major aspect of the movement through  personal development stages in the 2nd half of life and beyond is what I will call the contract.  Personal development and beyond requires intention, commitment and practice.  This is the holy trinity of the evolution of consiousness.  These three are needed to prepare the ground for the wild and precious life that is intended to be lived through you in the 2nd half of life.  This is not a luke warm commitment.  It isn’t something that you fit in when everything else is accomplished and when you happen to feel like it.

 

The revelation of the wild and precious life that comes to fruition in the Dangerous Old Women and the Wild Old Wicked Man is not for those who are lukewarm.  In this blog and its website I will be giving you practices and invitations that, if you pracitce them, will allow your life to be graced in ways unimagined.  Such a grace requires solid ego boundaries and with such grace comes tremendous responsibility that is best exercised with humility.

 

The Three Ages of Women by Gustav Klimt You are a Dangerous Old Woman or a Wild Old Wicked Man in training.  This training harvests the gifts and talents that creation birthed in you beyond the time of your birth into form.  These gifts are not necessarily the same as those skills you learned in the first half of life.  The skills that equip you in the first stages of personal development are not the skills that will assist you in the transition between midlife and the 2nd half of life.  You might consider this writer and storyteller not as a personal trainer, but your impersonal trainer.

 

Through this blog I train you in the practices of transition.  I train you to connect not to the finite within you but the infinite within you.  I train you not so much in the practice of time management but the direct knowing of the timeless within you.  I train in the practice of revelation. As an impersonal trainer I train you in directly knowing that you are not only loveable but you are Love incarnate.

 

The difference between a personal trainer and an impersonal trainer is that most of the work is not about gain but about letting go.  There is  one central aspect to this impersonal training.  In a word, one that will be repeated through this blog, the central technique to learning to live a wild and precious life is the practice of trust.

 

I essentially train you in trusting the process of becoming who you are intended to become.  Through this blog I will mentor you to trust the cycles within you and the deep heart’s core within you.

 

As an impersonal trainer, a trainer beyond personal development, I don’t add anything to you but share sacred technologies that reveal the power, the grace and the beauty of who you are already. 

 

This grace, power and beauty is who you are and always will be.  The quest I, as an impersonal trainer, invite you on is one of revelation.  This revelation of who you are deepens as you integrate the various stages of personal development that life invites you to live and to Love.  Are you willing to claim your birthright as a person and being of such grace, power and beauty?  It is my hope that you make this quest a truly heart felt intention.  It is my purpose and my passion to keep inviting you in full knowledge of the outcome.  This is no better illustrated than in the words of my own impersonal trainer.

 

Come, come, whoever you are.
Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving — it doesn’t matter,
Ours is not a caravan of despair.
Come, even if you have broken your vow a hundred times,
Come, come again, come.

- Rumi

 

Another key aspect of integrating the stages of personal development and beyond is the aspect of forgiveness.  Even if you have broken your committment one hundred times you are still to come back again and again.  This transition into the 2nd half of life is not a caravan of despair.  You are being invited here into the beauty of who you are and ever will be.  You are to forgive your so-called mistakes.   This being able to forgive is an essential stage of personal development and beyond. You are to forgive the fact that you will resist the process.  However, this is not a licence to indulge your resistance.  Your work is to become an alchemist of love.  You become a true magician.  You learn to change the lead of doubt into the gold of trust,  knowing the glory of who you are and who you are always becoming.

 

If you are so intent then one step you can take is to subscribe to the ‘Personal Development and Beyond’ Newsletter.  This will keep you connected to the true potential within you.  It will help ground you in the opportunity that is available in the second half of life.  It will help your transition during the period of midlife that is often filled with more crises than is acknowledged.

 

Priestess of Delphi by Hon John Collier It is my purpose and passion to assist in the flowering of the beauty and grace you are here to be.  In that sense I am a kind of midwife.  I assist in the birth of the beauty and grace that creation in its love of its creation (which you are) birthed you into form to celebrate in this time and space dimension called the human experience.   This birthing and flowering happens within all the stages of personal development and beyond.  However, it is important to know that what you love in one stage of personal development often becomes the very resistance to the movement into the next stage of personal development and beyond.  It is this resistance that is necessary for the birth of the new within you.   Understand this and it will go some way to your avoiding unnecessary suffering.

If the time is not right for you at this moment to make a commitment to your personal development and beyond then you might like to bookmark this page.  Simply press Control+D and this will allow you to do so.  Let me finish by saying thank you for taking the time to read this far.  I hope that we might meet again on the pages of this blog and that together we can build a world where the Dangerous Old Women and the Wild Old Wicked Men can become elders to the young who so need inspired leadership and courage to become all that Love asks to be birthed within them.

 

 

Let it be so.


OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

midlife crisis
SELF HEALING EXPRESSIONS – Browse various articels related to topics such as Spiritual Soul Mates, Life Purpose and Dream Interpretation
SPIRITUAL THEMES IN YOUNG ADULT BOOKS – Many young adult books can provide the spiritual information young adults need to assuage the loneliness of their passage; some of the possibilities are presented here.
BLISSITATIONS – At this site they are committed to making it easier, more enjoyable and more effective with guided meditations, visualizations, affirmations and other goodness to help turn your meditation into Blissitation!

U2 Can Find Meaning & Purpose from the 2nd Half of Life

 

In order to live a life of meaning and purpose you too (U2) must learn to give yourself away. As the knight Percival (Parsifal) asks in the story of the search for the Holy Grail, “Whom does the Grail serve?”, you too must ask what the holy meaning and purpose of your life is here to serve. I love to watch U2 clips on YouTube. Their song With or Without You is, for this Irish storyteller and writer, is a kind of mystic poem and modern day rock anthem.  This song, like all great heart songs, works on various levels.  It is a song about the struggle to live in relationship.  At a more mystical level it can be considered a song about the struggle to live in duality. At the heart of the song are these lyrics

 

Continue reading

 

And you give yourself away

You give yourself away

and you give and you give

and you give yourself away

 

 

 

 

 

This giving  yourself away can be giving yourself in the surrender of physical love making.  It is the giving one’s self away in the union of the mystic with the Beloved. It is giving your self away to the work that expresses your soul essence and not simply work as a means to an end. It is a mother giving herself away to build a world of safety for her children.  It is the mature male who is focused on protecting all children who he meets.   Whatever way in which this giving yourself away happens it is important that it does happen.  This is not simply about giving yourself to a project for the purpose of ego satisfaction.  This is not what I take these lines from the U2 song With or Without You to mean.

 

 

What you give yourself away to has to be bigger than your individual ego self.  It is in this way that you find meaning and purpose.  It is a paradox that in giving yourself away you find what you are seeking.  This giving yourself to something larger than the ego is important at some stage of your life.  It is especially important during the second half of life beyond the age of fifty.  This is when you begin the process of individualisation and you leave what is culturally expected of you to go in search of your personal holy grail, asking the question, “Whom does the Grail serve?”  This is another way of asking, “Whom will my heart serve?”

 

 

The Grail is the cup that is said to have held the blood of Christ. The blood is the container of primal life energy that flows through the body.  The Christ is the experience of non-dual consciousness that allows you to know and to be all that you are here to be.  The Christ is the servant of all and serves from the knowing of Love.  Do not confuse the Christ with the time space body of Jesus of Nazareth who knew how to give himself in total surrender to Love as one who lived from the experience of Christ Consciousness.  This confusion of the historical Jesus with the dimension of Christ Consciousness is such a common error that no one really ever questions it.  No one has Christ Consciousness.  It is not something you own but is who you are to become as the revelation you are intended to be.

 

 

In the first half of life we give ourselves to creating a career, a family, a home and a kind of identity.  At the midpoint of life many people struggle and begin to ask a question from another song,

 

Is this all there is?”

 

 

These three cycles are universally recognised – at least for women in the maiden/mother/crone cycle. I am not quite sure what the three cycles are for men except that they are there.  The tragedy of many people’s lives is that they refuse to transition from the first part of life into the second.  This resistance is experience by both men and women as the midlife crisis.  They think that the skills they have learned in the first half of life prepare them for the  journey of meaning and purpose in the second half of life.

 

 

In the case of many men, they continue to live as boy men, living the idea of success as opposed to failure.  When they retire they live a life of narcisstic self-indulgence and all too often they find that their life has lost meaning.  Most high powered executives who are men and who have heavily invested their time and identity in their work die within three to five years of retirement.  I suspect they exit on the planet because they feel they are no longer of productive use.  This is a tragedy.

 

 

If you are between the ages of thirty-five and fifty you will be experiencing mid-life.  For many of you this is a cycle that might be termed ‘the will to meaning.’  If you do not have this experience of will to meaning then it might come later.  If it does not come, pray that it arrives.  I mean that literally.  The sadness is that these cycles are known but not taught.  They were known and ritualised in indigenous societies but ours is a culture that focuses only on the first half of life, which is, in reality, only half a life.  In India it was traditional for a man to leave his wife and family and go off to a forest or mountain to find out who he was.  Fifty is a good age for someone living on the Indian subcontinent even in this day and age.

 

 

The Passage of the Holy Grail to Sarras There is no need for you to leave your wife or family or husband or partner or job. There is a need to leave the culture that invites a never ending focus on self-serving.  There is a need to transition and turn around and quest.  There is a need for you as an individual to answer for yourself the question “Whom does the Grail serve?”  The grail is a symbol of sacred unity.  It symbolises what is whole in you and what way in which you can make the world whole.

 

The quest begins with a question.  What are you going to do with your “one wild and precious life?”  In the second half of life you learn to give it away.  You learn to surrender to Love’s purpose and not your own.  You listen to the still small inner voice.  You listen beyond the manic clamour of your mind and the collective mind.  You learn to centre yourself and become the knower within. You claim your true King within or your true Queen within.

 

 

You too can give yourself away and live a life of meaning and purpose.  It is an antidote to what they Jungian analyst Robert Johnson terms the unlived life.  It is an antidotes to the pull of a depressed life energy that destroys so many lives.  You become, in the words of the poet W  B Yeats  a Wild Wicked Old Man or what the storyteller Clarissa Pinkola Estes terms the Dangerous Old Woman.  This Wild Old Wicked Man and Dangerous Old Woman are those who are ready to give to their community the best of who they are for the highest good of all.

 

Giving yourself away with a sense of purpose begins with intention and moves through faith into Love in action.  It is not simply ‘do gooding’ but leads to  the knowing that giving yourself away is the only sensible answer to the question of existence.  In this way you give meaning to your life and live the wild and purpose-filled life. So rather than grow old and slip into a loss of meaning in the second half of life remember that U2 can find meaning and purpose for all your life by giving yourself away.

 

For what shall it profit a man if he gain the whole world and lose his soul.

OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

2nd half of life
SPIRITUAL THEMES IN YOUNG ADULT BOOKS – Many young adult books can provide the spiritual information young adults need to assuage the loneliness of their passage; some of the possibilities are presented here.
BLISSITATIONS – At this site they are committed to making it easier, more enjoyable and more effective with guided meditations, visualizations, affirmations and other goodness to help turn your meditation into Blissitation!
SPIRITUAL ARTICLES FOR TEACHERS AND STUDENTS – Spiritual Development articles related to student life

Levels of Consciousness – A Powerful Framework For Your Personal Growth

image

 

Readers of this blog will recognise that the writings that appear in this space have a personal kind of style that promotes meaning and purpose in the second half of life through storytelling, song, poetry and practice. I love writing my own material but there are some articles that I find on the web which are so important that I feel they must be shared. The article written below is one such article. It is written by Chelestine Chua who has a passion to help people and it clearly shows in her writings. This article, and others written by Christian, are available at her blog The Personal Excellence Blog – Be your best self. Live your Best Life   I have not changed any of the content except to add the kind of art that enhances the posts I make to this blog.

 

 

 

Here is what Celestine Chua has graced us through her writing.

Continue reading

 

In this article, I’m very excited to share with you the map of consciousness, developed by Dr. David Hawkins in Power vs Force. This is the same map I alluded to in Are You Sleepwalking Your Life Away? Part 2 post. The reason I’m so excited is because this map is probably the single most powerful tool in your pursuit for personal growth and excellence. There are two reasons why I say that: Firstly, having the map of consciousness empowers us in knowing where we stand in our current state of growth.

 

While all of us can try to live consciously every day, without knowing the point we are starting from, we are just randomly groping in the dark. Having the map gives us a fix on our current location. When we are able to identify our starting point, we can then make actionable plans on where we want to go next. Secondly, this map lists all the different levels of consciousness attainable, thus serving as a critical framework for conscious living. Without knowing the highest end state of consciousness we can attain, we can only be making baby steps of progress and not be optimizing our full potential. But having clarity of the different levels of consciousness provides us with the full context of growth. By knowing the other levels ahead, we are more able to comprehend how limiting our current level of consciousness is, what we should be striving towards and the highest end point we can reach. While we can debate on whether Hawkin’s is fully valid or exhaustive, the map definitely provides us a very good reference point to start with.

 

For me, having this map of consciousness has been very helpful in identifying where I currently stand in my pursuit of growth, becoming more conscious of my reactions towards life events and what they represent, understanding the limitations of the level I am at and what I should do in order to further up my consciousness. Consciousness Defined What is consciousness actually? Being conscious is more than just being physically awake. It is also more than just being aware. Awareness typically refers to knowingness at the mental level, while consciousness is a state of knowingness that encompasses all mental, emotional and spiritual aspects of ourselves. To be conscious is to have awareness of one’s thoughts, emotions, own existence, sensations, and surroundings. aepoet1

 

The consciousness we operate in is actually equivalent to the lens we use to see reality. The perceptions, beliefs, mindsets and values we hold right now are a result of the consciousness we are operating in. Whenever we experience a shift in our consciousness due to an epiphany, an AHA or inner realization, we are actually breaking away from our old consciousness and as a result, old belief systems and attitudes. This is the same as shedding of an old lens we used to see reality with and adopting of a new lens. Why Increase Your Consciousness Level? As mentioned above, consciousness is like a lens you use to view reality. Being at a different level of consciousness means you are using a different lens to view the world. Your thoughts, feelings, beliefs, values and actions are outputs of the level of consciousness you vibrate at.

 

While the object you are observing (i.e. life, the world, events in your life, yourself) can remain the same, just having a different consciousness level causes those outputs to be widely different. Let’s take an analogy with myopia. If you are at the lowest level, it’s like you have extremely high myopia of -10.00. You can’t see anything beyond an extremely distorted sense of self worth and the world. At a higher level however, that visual fog lifts and you develop higher clarity on yourself, the world, and your place in the world. Your vision becomes less hazy and more accurate. The higher you go, the higher the clarity your vision on what the world around you entails. All these changes come from just a change in your consciousness; in reality nothing about life or the world has changed.

 

To increase your consciousness level thus translates into a more accurate viewpoint of reality. This allows you to lead the truly happy, full and abundant life which you are meant to experience. Map Of Consciousness The map of consciousness was developed via kinesiology, or muscle testing. I’ll not be covering the technicalities here; if you are interested in the details, it’s best to check out the book – there are two full chapters dedicated to the explanation of the methodology, testing and interpretation. From this test, a scale of consciousness / energy level was calibrated, from 0 all the way to the highest end of 1000 points. Within this scale, there are a total of 17 different levels of consciousness demarcated by different points on the scale. Moving from 0 to 1000 mark a progression in the change of one’s world view from a fear-based consciousness, to a love-based consciousness. The highest attainable level is enlightenment at 1000. 17 Levels of Consciousness Description of Each Level of Consciousness

 

I will provide a description of each level, starting with the bottom-most level. As you read this, think about which level resonates the most with you:

 

1) Shame

(1-20): Someone at this level feels humiliated, has low self esteem, is paranoid. Common expressions where one vibrates at this level would be when one feels like he/she has “lost face”, wishes he/she is invisible, feels worthless. Some individuals at shame react by becoming overly rigid and/or neurotic perfectionists. Vibrating in this level for prolonged periods leads to elimination (of self and others), such as suicide, turning into serial killers, rapists, moral extremists who apply self righteous judgment onto others. The person’s view of life at this state is misery.

 

2) Guilt (30):

Feelings of blame and remorse hover here. Used to consciously or subconsciously manipulate conformance to certain forms of thinking and behaviors. Commonly melded by our society with public punishment and finger-pointing culture, by religious institutions with preoccupation of “sin” and “salvation”, acts of ritual killing to “appease” higher entities, etc. This level cultivates destruction. Hawkins cites the life-view as evil, which I disagree and feel condemnation is more adept.

 

3) Apathy (50):

A state of despair and helplessness. Someone here is needy and dependent on others for help, such as the homeless, the poor, the aged population. Because this level feels “heavy” and is seen as a burden to others around, many people usually avoid those who are vibrating at these levels. For example, we see how the poor and unfortunate have come to be shielded away from the mainstream society. We also frequently see situations where the aged is abandoned by their own kin because they are seen as a liability. This level is associated with abdication, which means to give up one’s power to others. The life-view here is hopelessness.

 

4) Grief (75):

Feelings of regret, sadness and loss are abound here. Many people vibrate at this level in times of losses – of loved ones, relationships, possessions, jobs, money, etc. Outcomes would be mourning, remorse, being hung up over what has occurred, etc. Someone at grief sees despondency and bleakness all around the world and in life. The life-view is tragic. Grief is a higher level than apathy, because one starts feeling more energy at this level, albeit of sadness and loss.

 

5) Fear (100):

Energy at this level is oriented in anxiety. Common situations of fear at play would be fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of uncertainty, fear of challenges, fear of aging, fear of death, fear of loss, fear of strangers. This emotion is often played on by marketers and politicians to achieve their agendas. Fear leads to paranoia and can turn into an obsession. At this level, one views everything uncertain as fearful and thus undergoes the state of withdrawal. Thus, fear prevents personal growth from taking place. Someone in the level of fear sees the world as frightening.

 

6) Desire (125):

At the level of desire, the emotion of craving becomes dominant. We have people pursuing money and status as end goals for a better life, lonely singles longing to be in romantic relationships believing it will complete themselves, marketers conditioning ‘wants’ in people’s minds through enticing advertisements and promises of happiness with consumption of goods, fashion industry playing on desires for increased attraction, just to name a few. Addictions are outputs of desire, such as desire for food, video games, fun, sex, shopping, acquisition of money and power, etc. One becomes looped into enslavement at this level, because desire is never-ending emotion. The life-view is disappointing, which ensues when one cannot obtain what one desires. Desire is a higher level than fear because the desire for something propels people forward to action, rather than withdraw to a corner.

 

7) Anger (150):

The emotion at this level is hate. Anger expresses itself as resentment, frustration and even revenge. Common manifestations of anger in the society are activism towards causes (environmental, animal rights, third-world countries, poverty-stricken areas), equality, social movements. At the individual level, examples include irritable and volatile behavior, short-temper. The upside of anger is it has resulted in liberation and great movements in the society; the downside is dangerous behavior and intentional harm might ensue from it. The process one undergoes is aggression. The life-view here is antagonistic, where one is hostile, unfriendly and acts in opposition/rebellion against others.

 

8 ) Pride (175):

Hawkins cite scorn as the dominant feeling of pride, which I disagree. I feel dignity is an emotion that is more representative of the level; scorn comes a result of this dignity, though it may be too subtle for people to recognize since it is often masked over. At our current society, pride is a level that is encouraged and seen as positive – for example, pride of being part of a group, institution, company, nation, religion, race. However, this leads to a duality viewpoints, which acts as an invisible force to separate people. For example, nations exist because people identify themselves more with a geographical location rather than the a common, universal identity. Religions exist because people attach themselves to their beliefs of god and values which serve as a separator. On a personal level, people form pride based on possessions and external conditions, and it is vulnerable because such conditions can be removed at any point in time. Pride results in denial and arrogance. At pride, one undergoes inflation (of ego) rather than being able to see things objectively. The life-view here is demanding.

 

9) Courage (200):

Affirmation is the key emotion here. This is the separation point between Power and Force, where one is starts creating change through the use of constructive states of power rather than destructive force. This is the first waking point where one starts to wake from his/her sleepwalker status. At the lower levels before this, the world is seen as hopeless, tragic, frightening, demanding; People from below 200 sees themselves as victims, at the mercy of life and subjected to forces of the external world. At courage one sees the world as exciting and filled with possibilities. One undergoes empowerment here. This marks the start of active pursuit of growth – where there exists a gap, the person will act to fill it. For example, learning new job skills, embarking on new education, pursuing personal growth. The life-view is feasible – anything is manageable since the person is able to harness power to deal with situations in life. People in the higher levels >200 recognize that their happiness and life lies within them.

 

10) Neutrality (250):

The emotion at this level is trust and safety. Here, people are non-judgmental, objective and able to see things as they truly are. They are not attached to possessions, situations, outcomes and can roll with the punches in life. If they are not able to get something, they are equally happy settling for something else. This is NOT the same as apathy – the power of neutrality comes from a positive place, where one recognizes his/her inner power and abilities and does not feel the need to prove anything to anyone; apathy is rooted from being forsaken in self and the world, resulting in nonchalance and jadedness towards the external world. The process is one of release (of everything), and the life-view is satisfactory, where anything goes. These people are easy to get along; however they are difficult to engage towards causes and visions because they are detached towards everything.

 

11) Willingness (310):

Optimism runs high here. At Willingness, the individual is open to do anything and everything – he/she is not bounded by others’ judgments or by limitations. For example, he/she is willing to take on menial jobs if he/she cannot get jobs elsewhere. The marked characteristic between willingness and levels below is the desire to do things well (for the sake of it), rather than just doing things. Someone at Willingness can readily bounce back from set-backs, is easily moldable and genuinely open to everyone. Success follows them easily. The process one undergoes here is of intention (to do anything). The life-view is hopefulness. At this level you have people who perform extremely well in their careers in corporations, start-ups; however the question then comes as to whether they are investing their energy in the best way.

 

12) Acceptance (350):

In my opinion, this marks the second waking point for an individual and where he/she is fully awake from his/her sleepwalker stance. Here, one finally realizes that he/she is THE creator and source of his/her life, as opposed to having relegated some part of it to someone else or a different entity. He/she is (1) aware of the social constructs present in one’s life, whether by family, society, nation, religion, work (2) able to discern against (limiting) beliefs, viewpoints and conditioning which he/she is surrounded with and (3) able to consciously craft his/her life above and beyond all these social constructs. Characteristic behavior at this level will be acceptance vs. rejection, seeking for resolutions vs. judging right or wrong, long-term vs. short-term view, engaging on life harmoniously on its terms vs. resisting it, striving for personal excellence and growth. Forgiveness is the dominant emotion. The process one undergoes is transcendence (above what one faces in life). The life-view here is harmonious.

 

13) Reason (400):

The emotion is understanding and rationality. One seeks out huge amounts of information and analyzes them to infinitesimal detail before reaching conclusions. This is where the noble prize winners, leaders of science and medicine and great thinkers of history calibrate. However, Reason falls into the trap of overintellectualization in concepts and theories. Where differing theories clash and each argument is sound on its own, we reach a blockade, leading to the inability to resolve discrepancies. This leads to the process of abstraction or preoccupation with data. The life-view is meaningful.

 

14) Love (500):

This represents unconditional love – love that is pure, unfaltering, unwavering, not subjected to any external conditions. It is not the same love that is commonly portrayed in mass media, which is rooted in lust, desire, pride, control, addiction, attraction, jealousy and possessiveness. While the media often establishes love and hates as opposite poles, hate is actually rooted from pride (desire for control/possessiveness), and not actual love. Reverence is the main emotion in the level of (unconditional) love. At this level, duality becomes an illusion; the feeling is one of entirety that rises above separation. Unconditional love is inclusive of everyone and expands beyond self. While reason deals with specific data, love deals with entirety, thus giving rise to the capacity for instanteous understanding. This aspect is often linked with intuition. The process one undergoes is revelation. The life-view is benign, there is no separation, fear or negativity. Hawkin claims only 0.4% of the population (1 in every 250 people) ever reaches this level.

 

15) Joy (540):

The dominant emotion is serenity and compassion. This is the inner joy that arises from every moment of existence rather than from an external source. This is the level where saints, advanced spiritual students and healers dwell. At this level, one is characterized by enormous patience and an unwavering positive attitude in the face of harsh adversities. The world is seen as one of perfection and beauty. Individuals are motivated to dedicate themselves to the benefit of life rather than for specific individuals. Here, the process of transfiguration occurs (emanating of radiance from the person). The life-view the individual holds is completeness (of the world). Near death experiences have the effect of temporarily bumping people into this level.

 

16) Peace (600):

The emotion is bliss. At this level, there is no longer any distinction between the observer and the subject. People here become spiritual teachers, great geniuses in their field to effect great contribution for mankind; they typically transcend formal religious structures and replace it with pure spirituality where religions originate from. Perception becomes one of slow motion, suspended in time and space. Everything is perceived as interconnected by an infinite presence. The process one undergoes is illumination; the life-view is perfect. Hawkins claims this level is only attained by 1 out of 10 million people.

 

17) Enlightenment (700-1000):

The emotion is ineffable, in other words – inexpressible. This is the pinnacle of the evolution of consciousness of mankind. The greatest people of history have attained this level, such as Krisna, Buddha, Jesus, Mother Theresa. Here, the body becomes recognized as a tool to project consciousness in. One’s existence becomes all encompassing and transcends time and space. The process is described as pure consciousness. The life-view here is simply ‘Is‘. In achieving our highest potential and embracing our best lives, we should strive for the highest possible level i.e. enlightenment. Overview of the Map of Consciousness

 

Below is a map that captures the summary of all 17 levels of consciousness: Map of Consciousness You can purchase the laminated version from Veritas Publishing here (not an affiliate link). About the Figures 1. They are logarithmic figures and not arithmetic figures. What this means is when you see a figure, say 200, it means 10 to the power of 200 (10^200) and not the absolute number 200. Thus, 200 on the scale does not mean twice the magnitude of 100. 2. A small increment by a few points represent a huge increase in magnitude. For example, let’s look at 100 and 105. Even though it’s just +5 in pts, in logarithmic terms, a +5pt difference represents 100,000 (i.e. 10^5) times the difference in magnitude! This means even if you are in the level of Guilt or Apathy, just raising your consciousness by +5pt will result in enormous improvements in your well being and state of life.

 

About the levels of consciousness

 

1. The level of consciousness which you are currently at is a weighted average of the different consciousness levels you operate in. A person usually vibrates at a default consciousness level and shifts to a couple of levels below and above that level depending on the situation. Every thought, every feeling and every action you have in every situation is rooted from a particular consciousness level; all these can be summed up and averaged to identify the default level you are in. It is rare someone will maintain an exact same state of consciousness in a given period of time. Even within the same day, you may behave at a certain consciousness in this context and at a totally different consciousness in a different context. One influence on your consciousness is the stimulus in your life. This includes the situations you are in, the type of people you spend time with, your environment and so on. In times of pressure, one’s consciousness level usually gets bumped down a few levels. Depending on how the person recovers from the pressure, his or her default consciousness level might be elevated to a higher level after the encounter.

 

2. One can move across different levels of consciousness. Your consciousness level now does not define what your consciousness will be in the future. It is open to change; it is not static. Each person is open to move across different levels, depending on how he/she (chooses to) evolve in his/her consciousness.

 

3. Distinction of levels of Power vs. levels of Force. Hawkins segmented the consciousness into two main categories – one based in force (<200) and one based in power (>200). People in levels of Force vibrate at a level of fear-based emotions. They are more inclined to exert control over others or themselves (oppression, force, coercion, manipulation, violence) to achieve their desired outcomes. For example, crime, war, governmental passing of certain policies, abuse, or even authoritative leadership/parenting styles. People in levels of Power (love, empathy, understanding) vibrate at a level of love-based emotions. They are increasingly aligned with the present moment and universe and use that to bring about their desired results.

 

4. Each level can be beneficial/detrimental to you depending on the level you are at. For example, the state of fear (100) may look quite undesirable if you are at the level of desire (125). However, if you are at the state of guilt (30), being around people at state of fear (100) is actually beneficial for you as it can help elevate you to a higher level. It is generally more effective when you are around people at higher consciousness levels which are closer to your level (vs. a huge distance ahead), since it is easier for your energy levels to reach resonance with theirs. When the people are too distanced from you in their energies, it may result in detachment and alienation instead. On the same note, when you elevate yourself to a higher level, it becomes obvious that the lower levels are more limiting. For example, if you are at the level of Pride, you will see how levels of Shame/Guilt/Apathy/Grief/Fear/Desire/Anger bind people down. If you are at the level of Acceptance, you will realize how being at levels of Pride/Courage/Neutrality/Willingness restrain others.

 

5. At Courage and Acceptance, one experiences a marked leap in the experience of the world. An increase in consciousness at any level changes your experience significantly. However, there are two particular levels where one experiences a marked leap vs. the other levels. The first is Courage, which separates the levels of force (<200) from the levels of power (>200). This is the first waking point from the sleepwalker status. The second is Acceptance, where one recognizes it is he and he himself who is the conscious creator of everything in his life. This is the point where one completely awakes from sleepwalking. Where Does Our World Stand

 

Today? If you are to take a guess, what do you think is the collective consciousness of humanity today? 100? 200? 300? 400? 500? When Hawkins wrote the book in 1995, he calibrated the collective consciousness of our world to be at the level of courage (calibrated 207). As humanity’s consciousnesses has shown to increase only about +5pts every century, 207 is very likely still to be the figure for today. However, this does not mean that the majority of our world is at the level of courage – in fact, 85% of the world calibrates below courage (200). The lower levels of the masses is balanced out by a few individuals near the top (remember the number is logarithmic, not arithmetic), thus giving us a overall calibrated figure of 207. Just having a few highly conscious leaders walk the earth is capable of raising the overall consciousness of the world – for example, Jesus, Buddha, Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Theresa, and so on.

 

Before this, the world’s collective consciousness has been at 190 for many centuries. Why is the figure so low? If we are to look at around at what we see in the world, the answer becomes quite apparent:

 

1. Over 80% of humanity is living at less than $10/day, under extreme poverty. This includes third world countries, war and disaster stricken areas. Many people here are trapped in states of Apathy (50). art_ra2

 

2. Religious teachings and institutions have drastically lowered in consciousness over the years, as they become embroiled with  personal agendas of various men and leaders. The original teachings of Jesus, Buddha and Krishna calibrated at 1,000.  Today, the teachings of Buddhism dropped over the centuries to an average of 900+; Hinduism at 850; Christianity at 750 or even 500 depending on the denominations; militant Islam fundamentalism is at 130 (Desire). In order to keep members within the religion, many religious leaders turn to Guilt (30) and Fear (100) based teachings towards the members.

 

3. In first-world developed nations, our society is deeply entrenched in states of Fear (100), Desire (125), Pride (175). Fear includes fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of uncertainty.  Desire encompasses the insatiable quest for material possessions (wealth and goods), status, power, love, belongingness. Pride takes root from dualistic views such as elitism, competition, nationalism, racial pride, factions, religions, as well as attachment to status/wealth/goods. These are all dominant levels we see our society operating in today.

 

4. Our mass media continually perpetuates levels of fear, desire and pride, or even lower. Refer to the below table on the calibrated consciousness of several popular shows (obtained from New Connexion; unfortunately the content is no longer online).

 

Try examining your favorite shows across the levels of consciousness and see where they are likely to lie.

 

Desperate Housewives: 63 (Apathy)

Bourne Supremacy: 73 (Apathy)

Everybody Loves Raymond: 82 (Apathy)

NFL Football: 82 (Apathy)

CSI Miami: 92 (Fear) – (This was one of my favorite shows years back!)

Day After Tomorrow: 92 (Fear)

Passion of the Christ: 98 (Fear)

Shrek 2: 124 (Desire)

 

What Level of Consciousness Are You At? What level of consciousness are you at? Which level do you find your thoughts and feelings dominating every day? Remember that every thought, every belief, every feeling and every action you have is rooted from the level of consciousness you are in. When you shift your level of consciousness, you also change your world views and mentality. Be sure to save this page in your bookmarks as it will be a very important tool in your pursuit for growth.

 

This is where the article by Celestine Chua finishes.  I highly recommend that you acquire this wonderful book Power vs. Force: The Hidden Determinants of Human Behaviorlevels of consciousnesslevels of consciousness by Dr. Hawkins and read it as a guide to awareness of a very important map.  If you are someone who is an open minded Christian then a similar map is available from reading the book by Jim Marrion entitled Putting on the Mind of Christlevels of consciousness.levels of consciousness  There are many maps available that help you along the journey to the wild and precious life.  The above article by Celestine Chua featuring the work of Dr. Hawkins is amongst the most important.

 

It might be interesting to consider the television programs that you watch.  I do not watch television, nor do I read mainstream newspapers because for the most part they promote fear, greed and lead to apathy.  I play the movies that are the invitation from spiritual cinema.  I purchase and play the recordings from Sounds True or from New Dimensions Radio.  I play music and read poetry that is the invitation to the deep hearts core.  In this way I feel good about the world and my place within it.  I invite you to begin find a map that suits you an one that you can follow to your deep hearts core and your deep hearts content.    I will leave you with some poetry from a man who was one of the best human beings to walk this planet.

 

 

 

 

My friend may you travel well and bless each and everyone of us through your courage to live the wild and precious life.  Let your life be a celebration.

 

Let it be so.

OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

levels of consciousness
CHAKRA HEALING – Articles on Chakra Healing by Energy Master Carol Tuttle
SOUNDS TRUE – Tools and teachings to spark your inner evolution. Download FREE spiritual development podcasts from inspirational teachers
SPIRITUAL THEMES IN YOUNG ADULT BOOKS – Many young adult books can provide the spiritual information young adults need to assuage the loneliness of their passage; some of the possibilities are presented here.

Finding Meaning in Life via Lifes Transitions

finding meaning in life To live a wild and precious life and find meaning in life is to live a legacy that could only be dreamed off.  This is the legacy that will give meaning to the second half of your life and far beyond the second half of your life.  I have purposefully written the words,

 

that could only be dreamed off.

 

In this blog  I focus on the transition between the first half of life, through midlife and beyond, into the opportunity to finding meaning in life and a life of meaning and purpose.  This is what I refer to as the life of the Wild Old Wicked Man, and in the case of a woman, is to live the life of a Dangerous Old Woman.  These are not my terms.  The Wild Old Wicked Man is the title of a W. B. Yeats poem.  The term Dangerous Old Woman is a title of a series of recordings on that topic from http://www.soundstrue.com by the storyteller and Jungian analyst Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes.

 

In the first half of life which I measure as the years from birth to the age of thirty five to forty most of us are building a life around achieving and the attainment of some idea termed success.  The energy of the life quest is focused on the question, “What’s in it for me?” or “How big a slice of the cake can I acquire for myself and those who are closest to me?”  In the first half of life there is a lot of ego even if the goal is to get rid of the ego and attain to some kind of personal salvation.

Continue reading

 

Midlife, which is somewhere between the ages of thirty five and fifty,there is what is called the midlife crisis.  This is what I call a crisis of the will to meaning.  This is the call of the soul.  It is the invitation to cross a threshold and begin the Hero’s journey.  It is a time that very often causes havoc in many peoples lives.  Then there is the transition to the second half of life between the ages of forty five until the time of the death of the body.  This stage is also filled with crises and opportunity.  In this stage one goes through what is called the menopause.  This is true of both men and women.  It is a form of death into rebirth.  Most people, especially men, resist this birthing and in the process die in a very different way.  This is a kind of living death into a life of narcissism and regret.

 

To find meaning in life is to leave a legacy.  I am not writing here about leaving money or possessions to your children or leaving resources to a cause you believe in.  There is nothing right nor wrong in doing this.  A legacy of meaning and purpose is a legacy that is timeless.  A legacy that you leave beyond time is a legacy that only you could have dreamed off.  To put it more accurately, the legacy that only you could leave, is that which you allow to be dreamed through you. In the first half of life our dreams are driven by ego and culture.  In the second half of life, if you are prepared to take the road less travelled, the life that you dream off is driven from the soul.  The legacy you leave is that of higher consciousness, or to put it another way, off higher love making.  Consciousness is never born and never dies.  It is the non-stuff of the timeless.  It is what allows you to be aware of life.  Its expansion, and the expansion of Love, are not separate.

 

 

The legacy that you leave from finding meaning in life in the second half of life will be a paradox.  You get what your heart truly desires when you learn to give yourself utterly away. You don’t give yourself away as some kind of martyrdom.  You give yourself away by coming into alignment with soul purpose which is the only true way to find meaning and purpose in life. This giving yourself away is a living paradox.  It is also a loving paradox.  The more that you give yourself to this dreamed off legacy the more you expand into higher love making.  You bring into your life a higher love or more to the point you allow a higher love to be lived through you.  Your legacy for the second half of your life is wonderfully invited in the rock anthem by Steve Winwood entitled “Bring me a higher Love.”

 

 

Think about it, there must be higher love
Down in the heart or hidden in the stars above
Without it, life is a wasted time
Look inside your heart, I’ll look inside mine

– From Higher Love by Steve Winwood.

 

 

Might I suggest you listen to this song.  Turn it up loud and dance.  This is a way to embody the longing to meaning and purpose through the active.  The body understands this longing for higher love making.  It is after all the embodiment of Love in form.  It is the unique manifestation of the in formed action of Love.  For those of you who love drumming there is also the great opening.

 

 

 

I follow my dreams as a daily spiritual practice.  These are the dreams that appear nightly.  Recently I had what I consider a very important dream.  In this dream I am gathered around a round table upon which there are plans to build a house of soul nourishment.  The round table symbolises for me a kind of knightly endeavour.  The dreamwork that I do is a true knightly endeavour that gathers those disparate parts of myself around a centre.  This holy centre is represented by the round table.  This is  the nightly task (knightly task) of paying attention to the dreams that are gifted to me as symbols of meaning and purpose.  What this house of nourishment will be will be revealed as a consequence of paying fidelity, or having faith in the process.

 

This process, is I believe, an eternal process.  It is the eternal process of Love’s becoming.  You are never apart from that becoming.  You are here as a unique representative in form of the eternal movement of Love in form.  Is that not a glorious opportunity?  It is the revelation of this knowing that can be the potential blessing for the second half of your life and the opportunity of finding meaning in life for the rest of your life and beyond.

 

In the second half of life, which is becoming longer and longer, you have the paradoxical opportunity to die into Love rather than just die to the form of the body. I invite you to use the power of intention to allow yourself to have dreamed through the dream that only you can have dreamed through you.  In that way you become your own religion.  This is what the poet Rumi calls the religion of Love.  In the religion of Love that reveals the essence of who and why you are you will have no regrets when the time comes to die to this form called the body.

 

Make it your intention to pay attention to your dream life.  Dream huge but don’t dream simply from the ego.  That is the energy of the first part of life and  soul purpose  is larger than any sense of ego purpose.  Follow your dreams.  Follow the invitation from the symbolic soul language that arises from within you each night.  This is the one language that I encourage everyone to become fluent in.  It is a language of a magical  land.  It is not simply a language of words but of images that speak to you in a unique and purpose filled way.

 

In the second half of life your focus is on the inner.  If you do not turn inward then your life will become routine and dry because you are not drinking from the living well.  However, don’t say that there is no water because if you are resistant to living from the holy well of your being.  However, don’t be too hard on yourself if you do experience intense resistance.  Birthing of Loves purpose through you isn’t less painful than physical birthing into form. The skills you learned in the first half of life do not suit the second half of your life.  Turn within and go to the well of being.

 

The Fountain

Don’t say, don’t say there is no water
to solace the dryness at our hearts.
I have seen
the fountain springing out of the rock wall
and you drinking there. And I too
before your eyes

found footholds and climbed
to drink the cool water.
The woman of that place, shading her eyes,
frowned as she watched-but not because
she grudged the water,

only because she was waiting
to see we drank our fill and were
refreshed.

Don’t say, don’t say there is no water.
That fountain is there among its scalloped
green and gray stones,

it is still there and always there
with its quiet song and strange power
to spring in us,

up and out through the rock.

~ Denise Levertov ~

 

The inner contains the infinite rather than the finite.  It contains the timeless rather than time.  It contains the deathless rather than death.  To know this and to leave a legacy of having known this never goes away.  It is the flowering of a knowing of higher love making.  It is not a product of time and thus death but the creation of that which is timeless and eternal.  We humans don’t need more things.  We need more soul that is radiating in form.  Let this be the kind of legacy you leave to this world of form and time so that in your unique way you bring Heaven to Earth and time comes to an end.  This is not what most people misunderstand as the end of the world but the beginning of the living from the birthless deathless experience of eternal life.  This is the way to live a life of meaning and purpose that you could only have dreamed off but it is not enough to simply dream.

 

The dreams have to be made active and manifest.  Let me finish by encouraging you to pay attention to your dreams and live your dreamed off life for the highest good of all.  Then the second half of your life will be more than pleasure seeking.  It will give you what you could never have dreamed off which is the knowing that you really are Love in form and also Love beyond form.  In the second half of your life you can know, and are intended to know, that you are a living embodiment of Love’s purpose that lives forever.  What could ever give you more meaning than to become what you are intended by Love to be?

 

Let it be so.

OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

midlife crisis
SPIRAL DYNAMICS – Another map of personal and spiritual development for your consideration
SOUNDS TRUE – Tools and teachings to spark your inner evolution. Download FREE spiritual development podcasts from inspirational teachers
NIGHTINGALE CONANT – Dowload inspirational personal and spiritual development podcasts for FREE

Directions from A Hero’s Journey – Surviving Male Menopause for Men and Women

 

Hero Holding the Beacon for Leander -  Evelyn Pickering De Morgan I am on a kind of heroic journey.  It isn’t one I have chosen to take but one that I find is a life cycle in many men’s lives but that is not spoken about. It is a cycle that more and more men will enter because we are all living longer lives.  There are more and more of us entering the second half of life.  For both men and women this involves a deep period of transition.  It is a period of crisis and a period of opportunity.  My intention in writing these spiritual directions for this journey is in order to leave some pointers along the way.  This is because, without these signposts along the way some men will not make it through this transition.  They will leave in their wake the wreckage of broken relationships and an immense amount of suffering for themselves and others.

 

Let me say here that I do not feel in any way a hero.  I feel lost, I feel frightened and I feel withdrawn.  This is not really like me.  I am becoming again the abandoned child that I hoped would not return to live within me.  I feel afraid to reach out and when I do all I seem to express is anger.  I have, however, anchors that keep me from getting totally lost.  These anchors are this writing, my dreamwork, my connection to poetry and especially to my love of song lines and also prayer and meditation.  These anchors also include the anchor of my long term relationship with my partner, my friends and the animals that grace my life.

 

 

When a man goes through the menopause, (but not having been through it as yet), he will very often have thoughts about death.  This is common.  An aspect of him is dying.  This is the crisis aspect but there is also the opportunity called rebirth. I don’t feel reborn as yet but I know at least intellectually speaking that this life/death/rebirth cycle is an eternal cycle.  At a deeper level within me there is also the knowing of this eternal cycle of becoming.

Continue reading

 

I was frightened yesterday by the lines from a song that I have recently found and am drawn too.  It is the song called Hurt.  The version I listen to is the version of this song sung by the wonderful Johnny Cash.  He is the man in black and I suspect that inside him lived the archetype of the Orphan but also the archetype of the Magician.  The opening lines from this song are

 

I hurt myself to see if I still feel.

 

 

Yesterday these lines would not go away even though I wanted them to go away.  These lines made me thing about all those children and young people who self harm and cut themselves because on a psychological level they need to have evidence that life blood still flows in their veins.  This is because they feel lifeless.  They mirror back to us the absence of the life of spirit evident in the culture.  My experience is not to fight any of the song lines that come into my mind.  They are usually coming from a deeper place.  Even though I do not know where they come from they often speak to my deeper condition.  Song lines have opened up my heart and have guided me through dark woods before.  Therefore, I choose not to shut down those lines that frighten me.

 

Does this mean that I intend to hurt myself in order that I might once again feel what I knew before and to find my life’s blood and passion.  It might mean that because the Orphan in me is the kind of wild child within me who is crazy enough to wreck havoc.  He will sometimes do things that he regrets.  However, there is also the Magician archetype within me who can hold the dynamic of the orphan and he does this by paying attention to the signs along the way.  There are always signs along the way and this is so even when the way is dark.

 

Midway on our life’s journey, I found myself
In dark woods, the right road lost – from Dante’s Inferno

 

However, it is best that you learn to be a sign maker before you enter the dark wood.  Then the wood will not appear as frightening.  Then inside the dark wood you will still find clues to the way forward into the clearing and the light.  This sign maker process is best begun when you are in your late thirties and forties although it can begin from the age of seventeen and beyond.  This is a regular spiritual practice that inspires and nurtures you on a daily basis.  When you do this for yourself you are also doing it for the highest good of the collective called humanity.  You become in a real sense a pioneer.  You go where no man, or woman, has gone before because your going is unique to you.  Although unique to you it is not separate from your unity with humanity.

 

I hurt myself today to see if I still feel.

 

When you journey into the dark wood of male menopause you will feel hurt, and as a partner of a man going through such a cycle, you are likely to get hurt in some way.  You as a man will hurt others because usually a man who feels out of control will strike out in anger.  A woman on the other hand tends to turn this anger inward and withdraws.  When a man and woman are experiencing this life cycle together it is a kind of dance of the prickly hedgehogs.  More often than not they separate further and further into their own world of hurt feelings.  I call this moving into the baggage room.

 

So although I feel frightened at the thoughts conjured up by these lines I have the foundation of years of practice behind me.  I have years of technique that allows me to not feel overwhelmed.  Although I will say that sometimes I feel close to that state.  No one would know, however, because I do not show that face to the outside world.  I only show it within the relationship that is central to my life.  I show it to you in these words because I can and will.  This is because there are lots of men moving through this dark wood who feel frightened and are ashamed of feeling frightened.  They feel alone and many feel abandoned.  They don’t know how to say what it is I am saying even if they had the courage to say it.  I am not saying this out of some kind of arrogance.  I am saying it from my experience of men as I know them.  Men, in many ways create this experience for themselves but is out off a lack of understanding about what is going on.  Primarily they do what most men do.  They deny and they project.  This keeps the cycle stuck and leads to more suffering for the man and those he loves and is loved by.

Ariadne by John William Waterhouse

 

 

I have many life lines.  Each is a line from a song, a poem or an inspirational text.  Each of these invitations arise from within.  It is the core from which all these lifelines connect.  I feel lost but I have a kind of Ariadne’s thread.  This is the thread that protects the hero when he enters the underworld or to use the metaphor I started with protects the hero when he enters the dark wood.  Hero here also includes heroine.  This is a golden thread that connects to the Self as represented by Ariadne.

 

 

I love song lines.  They don’t always bring me happiness but I am more interested in revelation and how the revealed Self can move in this world of time and space.  This is the movement that illiviates suffering of so many caught in the dark wood of opposites and opposition within.  Sure I feel frightened, alone, abandoned but at least I feel these feelings.  I feel hurt but still that is how I feel.  I will try not to visit this hurt on others because that simply deepens the sense of abandonment.  Although the Orphan in me is very good at creating the very dynamic he fears the most.  Why is that?  It is because when we feel vulnerable we go back to what we know.  I know abandonment.  It might not be the happiest of dynamics but it was and is familiar.

 

During the cycle that is the male menopause a man will return to those deep emotional wounds that are asking to be healed.  This is the real opportunity of the second half of life.  I invite you to begin to practice a spiritual technique of your choosing so that when the time comes that you as a man or a woman are not lost in the dark.  Then you will be able to sense where any particular life cycle is taking you.  This cycle of the male menopause for this writer and storyteller is an on going journey.  If you know of a man who is between the ages of forty five and sixty who is lost and causing hurt to himself and/or others you could gently share some of this spiritual direction that is here.  If any of this writing mans that one man or woman enters the light in the clearing of the dark wood then I have in some little way been a hero.  That will be enough of a reward and a boon from the wish fulfilling tree of the heart.

 

A Silent Wood

O silent wood, I enter thee
With a heart so full of misery
For all the voices from the trees
And the ferns that cling about my knees.

In thy darkest shadow let me sit
When the grey owls about thee flit;
There will I ask of thee a boon,
That I may not faint or die or swoon.

Gazing through the gloom like one
Whose life and hopes are also done,
Frozen like a thing of stone

I sit in thy shadow – but not alone.
Can God bring back the day when we two stood
Beneath the clinging trees in that dark wood?

Elizabeth Eleanor Siddal

I leave you with the song that prompted this reflection.  Blessings to the wonderful Johnny Cash and his wonderful wife and to you who have taken the time to read this far.

 

 

OTHER GREAT CONTENT

Here is some other material that will further your personal and spiritual development and your understanding of the various stages of spiritual development.

midlife crisis
BLISSITATIONS – At this site they are committed to making it easier, more enjoyable and more effective with guided meditations, visualizations, affirmations and other goodness to help turn your meditation into Blissitation!
SUPER CONSCIOUSNESS MAGAZINE – SuperConsciousness is an inspiring, content-rich, evidence-based science and spirituality magazine focused on exploring innate human potential.
SPIRAL DYNAMICS – Another map of personal and spiritual development for your consideration